Love Takes Over In October: A Synopsis of "Cuffing Season"
The chill is in the air, you start desiring things cooked in a crock pot. Did you just go from feeling summer sexy to sultry and stylish? Do you all of a sudden want to cuddle with someone? When people think of Autumn, they think of leaves changing colors, cooler weather, Halloween, and sweaters. But there is also another thing that Fall ushers in, “cuffing season”. Cuffing season usually begins in October and lasts until just after Valentine’s Day. During this period, many people inhibitions leave with the warm weather.
As the weather decreases, so are the places folks can congregate. Individuals find themselves indoors more. Being in the house can get monotonous, people begin to want company. “Cuffing season” is not a new concept, it’s just a modern term.
From the time of hunter gathers, when the days got colder and darkness lasted longer, humans had to be closer to share resources such as fire, food, and body heat. Imagine, you and your mate are snuggled up in front of a fire, eating food together, and conversing closely with one another. That sounds like a pretty sexy date. During ancient times “cuffing season” was called life.
“Cuffing season' is dangerous because it sneaks up on you. One minute you are planning your next endeavor, the next minute you are looking up old acquaintances on social media or reinstating that dating app you had sworn off. It’s something about this time of year that messes with the memory as well. People forget the reason why they stop engaging with certain individuals or circumstances. The need for companionship during the cold weather months has people forgetting some major flaws for the hope that potential manifests.
Watch out for rekindling DM's, texts, and emails. You are about to start hearing all kinds of things. The unemployed person is now working a great full-time job and wants to spoil you. The lazy person now works out 4-6 days a week and would love for you to join them. You’ll see people that ghosted you all of a sudden contacting you to do couple things. I suspect two activities were invented during “cuffing season” the late-night dinner reservation and Netflix and chill.
The effects of cuffing season can last longer than expected. The whole reason for New Year’s resolutions is because of it. You are in the house, working out less and eating more. Not only are you eating more but you are probably eating what is known as comfort food. You know the stuff that is usually fried, cheesy, doughy, or sweet. After all, Halloween is at the beginning of cuffing season and depending on your region “Octoberfest”, so then there’s drinking. Most people come out of “cuffing season” a little bigger than what they went in. Some people even come out with a family.
The main component of “cuffing season” is cuddling. Some people who don’t even like to be in a relationships find themselves semi-exclusive during this period. Because of the frigid temperatures, most of the time is spent indoors fostering an environment for close conversations which can turn intimate. These are the type of actions that lead to attachment. Now you are waiting for them to show up, so you can continue to watch the latest episode of that show you both love. Or you can’t wait for them to test that new recipe you told them about (before Corona Virus, it was more like checking out that new restaurant).
If you are a follower of my blog, then you have heard me speak on the concept of limerence. For those that are new, to summarize, limerence is the temporary feeling of true love that usually fades out within a year. “Cuffing season” is limerence on steroids. So, before you get “caught up in the heat” or “lost in the sauce” both proverbially and literally, ask yourself the following questions.
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